7 years of trying, 2 rounds of IUI, 3 rounds of IVF, endless injections, blood tests, visits to the clinic, eating healthy (6 egg whites every morning for months), weekly acupunctures, iv drips, womb healing etc, I have done it all.
Some days I was not ok. My throat felt stuck. Mainly because it was a journey that I did not want to burden others with, and there seemed to be no end to it.
An estimated 1 in 6 will have trouble conceiving. (UCLA Health, 2020). Trying to conceive can be a challenging and emotionally taxing experience for many individuals and couples. The physical and hormonal changes associated with fertility can cause a range of symptoms, from mood swings and irritability to physical discomfort. The uncertainty and lack of control over the process can also be difficult to cope with, leading to feelings of stress and anxiety.
In addition, the societal pressure to have children and the perceived expectations of others can add to the emotional burden. Month after month, individuals and couples also experience feelings of loss, grief, and disappointment if they have difficulty conceiving. The stress, anxiety, grief, trauma is proven to be as much as a cancer patient!
Going to a mental health professional was very useful to help me to go on. Through this journey, I learned that resilience is not about just being “tough”, and not giving up. Resilience is having patience while being in the darkness.
"Therapy helped me to be compassionate to my body, to forgive myself, over and over again. How to truly surrender and let go limiting beliefs about fertility deep within."
How therapy can help in the fertility journey
If you are feeling helpless, overwhelmed and looking for a safe space to process your experience, I invite you to consider going to a therapist.
A therapist can help individuals and couples navigate the physical, emotional, and social challenges associated with fertility. They can provide personalized guidance and support, and help you develop coping strategies and resilience.
Therapy can also help you explore and process yout emotions related to trying to conceive. This can include addressing feelings of stress, anxiety, and disappointment, and working through any underlying emotional issues that may be impacting fertility.
Overall, therapy can provide a valuable source of support and guidance for individuals and couples trying to conceive. By addressing the physical, emotional, and social challenges associated with fertility, these approaches can help you on your journey to parenthood to be an empowering and purposeful one.
How Hynotherapy and EFT help individuals and couples in conceiving
When we are nervous, anxious, our brain releases stress cortisol. This is proven to elevate heart rate, raise blood pressure and depression levels, insomnia etc. Can you imagine all the hardwork you have put in (e.g. diet, supplements, exercise) to optimise your body, but your body is not responding, despite doctor telling you there's nothing wrong with you?
Your body is sending its limited energy to regulate the emotions and the effects it cause to the body.
Our subconscious mind is 95% and powering our thoughts and actions.
The 5% conscious mind can say “don’t stress.” But our lives are powered and programmed to run by the 95%.
Hypnotherapy helps you to access the 95% to help you gain better control of your emotions
What truly made the difference is having a IVF support group and going regularly to a mental health professional. Having like-minded people who understands what I am going through made me felt like I was not alone.
To join the Lovingly Fertile support group or schedule a complementary consultation call on 1:1 therapy, contact Elle via the contact form or whatsapp message +65 91870522.